Counselling for Individuals and Couples
& Clinical Supervision in Surbiton and online
COUPLES WORK
The experience of ‘doing life’ with one person, day in day out, through times of struggle, change and personal growth, can be really hard. Some couples try therapy as a last resort to save the relationship. Others are not on the brink, but they wonder: could we be better?
Whether it’s crisis or curiosity that brings you here, I can offer you:
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the space - in person or online - to have some meaningful conversations with each other and to say the hard things in the presence of someone who will ensure both of you feel safe, heard and understood.
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a third set of eyes and ears to help you spot and make sense of the patterns and cycles you get caught in - and show you how to break free of them
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questions that allow you to reflect on yourselves and your relationship in new ways
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support to meet each other with curiosity rather than judgment, even when emotions run high
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challenge - with warmth and respect - when I think it’s required
WHAT BRINGS YOU HERE?
Some of the questions and concerns explored in couples therapy include (but are not limited to):
Will I ever stop feeling angry? * How can I forgive my partner? * How can I trust again? * Will my partner ever really understand me? * I feel very lonely in this relationship * Would we be happier apart? * My partner wants us to stay together, I don’t * I want to save our marriage; my partner isn't sure * Is my partner ever going to change? * Should I fight for this, or leave? * We want different things. * How much sacrifice should we make for each other? * Should we stay together for the kids? * I don’t want sex with my partner any more / they don't want sex with me * Where has all the fun gone? * I’ve asked for what I need so many times and nothing changes. What now?
If any of this resonates, or you’d like a space to explore something else entirely, I’d love to hear from you. Please get in touch by emailing bensonamymay@icloud.com with any questions, to check fees and to confirm current availability.